What's with people?

So I am in this moms group.

I was in one in NJ that was awesome. We hung out often, had holiday parties , our kids played together. They where, and ARE great girls. I tried for 2 years to try to find the same kind of friendship down here. I looked in Yahoogroups, just where I found the NJ group, and found afew. Within afew months I had joined and left several groups, finally starting my own. But all of the groups down here have been the same. People are always gung-ho about going to an event, or making plans for things. And 9 times out of 10 everyone just cancels out, or just doesn't show up.

Like tonight there was a moms night out at Starbucks that I was looking forward too, but everyone canceled. I know, I know it is near the holidays, they might be busy with that, but this always happens.
And I must say that I have caught the same bad habit of not showing up to things. They don't care why should I?

But my point here is really a simple one. Why do people say they are coming and join a moms group, if they really don't want to come? How can something possibly come up EVERY TIME?

These days it doesn't bother really me too much anyway, cause I hang out with my neighbors and afew other close friends, but damn I really wanted to go to Starbucks!! I could go by myself I suppose, but it's a twenty minute drive and it seems sorta a waste of time for a over priced coffee! Can't wait in about a year there will be a brand new starbucks about 5 minutes away!